Permission to Parent

Over the summer, many of the Teachers and I read Permission to Parent by Robin Berman, MD. The book resonated with us as educators of small children and as Montessorians. I asked the staff to share their biggest “takeaways” or favorite excerpts from the book:

“Kindness, compassion, and character are the keys to a life well lived.”

“Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean.”

“Language can unite, or language can divide.”

“Choosing words with grace is the most underrated tool in creating a strong parent-child bond, or any relationship, really. In order to engage your child’s highest self, you have to talk to his or her highest self.”

“Loosen the reigns…how can you discover yourself when you have no time to be with yourself? Kids learn so much when they are doing things on their own: self-reliance, self-initiation and just being home with their own company.”

“Our job is not to prevent kids from failing; it is to teach them that failure is part of the process of success.”

“Parents are trying to take the sharp edges out of their kids’ lives. But part of life is negotiating the edge.”

“Teach the perspective that failure is not final.”

“All feelings are welcome. All expressions of that are not.”

Dr. Berman writes with such direct honesty. She also has a sly sense of humor that is entertaining and keeps you reading till the end. The book, by the way, is a quick read. I’ll leave you with this, one of the more humorous moments from the book:

“I hear so many parents of toddlers tell me, “I fear that if I don’t do all of this stuff, my kids will get behind.” Behind what? Get a grip. Your kid still sleeps in a onesie.”

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